Success in marriage is dependent on a variety of factors and a personalized definition of what it means to you. The success of your marriage is also deeper than just finding the right partner. It's about finding a partner with whom you can create a strong, resilient connection, a partner who desires and is willing to learn and grow with you, and a partner who is committed to the endurance needed for a lasting love. To discover and find a lasting love, we believe the following skills are needed:
Effective Communication: This is the cornerstone of any successful marriage. Learn how to master the art of active and reflective listening. Express your feelings openly and encourage your partner to do the same. Create a safe space for open and honest dialogue. Foster an environment where you both feel consistently understood by one another.
Prioritize Quality Time: Life will always be busy and you must find the time to intentionally connect consistently. Schedule regular date nights at home or out of the house. Invest your time into each other with a focus on strengthening your emotional connection and creating lasting memories.
Show Appreciation and Gratitude: Find a way daily to express appreciation, admiration, and affirmation for your partner. Think about how they add to your life and how you want to add to theirs. Be sincere in your expressions of appreciation and gratitude. Verbalize them out loud and do not only think about them. Make sure your partner hears you when you are sharing this with them.
Keep the Romance Alive: The honeymoon stage will end, it's 100% normal. That means you have to find ways to create and spark romance with one another. Ask each other what you want for romance and what lights the spark of intimacy for each of you. Take that info and apply it in your relationship.
Learn and Grow Together: You each can have your own dreams and goals for your life, but you also need relationship goals and dreams. Discuss these dreams and goals regularly. Explore how you can support one another as you pursue them and work together to pursue your relationship goals. Be willing to trial and error together and not give up when failure occurs.
Navigate Challenges Together: Similar to above, be willing to turn towards one another through life's challenges. Choose to be a team and approach the challenges as teammates. Communicate openly about your concerns and work together to find solutions or compromises. Stay united through the challenges and remember the commitment you made to one another.
Continually Build Trust and Respect: Honesty is a daily choice-make it so your trust can deepen. Honor the commitments you make to one another which includes your vows. Show respect even when disagreement is at play. Trust and respect are required to make it the old and bald or old and grey stage of life.
A successful marriage requires dedication, effort, and a commitment to building a strong connection with your partner. By prioritizing communication, quality time, appreciation, romance, growth, and trust, you can create a marriage that stands the test of time. Remember that it's the little things that make a big difference, and by consistently investing in your relationship, you can enjoy a fulfilling and successful marriage for years to come.
How would you define a successful marriage?