I started my journey as a couples therapist one month postpartum with my daughter. Saturday, February 1st, 2020, I started seeing couples, and it has been a journey. I’m grateful I took the chance, and I’m glad each year I have gotten better at developing my skill set compared to the first year. Here are the most common challenges I have seen in the couples therapy I have provided. Challenge #1: "I’m right, you’re wrong." One of the most common challenges in couples work is the conflict...

Crucial Conversations I started reading a new book called Crucial Conversations by Patterson, Greeny, McMillan, and Switzler. It intrigued me because so many of the couples I sit with come from either the need to have crucial conversations or from not having these types of conversations. There is an Instagram influencer I follow called @stylefitfatty , and I see examples of crucial conversations going left unsaid, often with some of the questions her followers submit each week.  Conversations...

One of the hardest parts of my job is watching the couples I work with struggle to find the time, energy, and effort it takes to heal and grow their relationship. I hear from them that: There’s not enough time in the day. I’m so tired at the end of the work day that I just want to chill. We couldn’t find a time to align our schedules. Our lives are too busy and full. This feels like homework, and I don’t like homework. We spend an hour (or two) in therapy each week; shouldn’t that be enough?...